Parent coming home from nursing home

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  1. Mag44

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    My Dad is coming home from a nursing home and me and my Mother are going to take care of him. He can’t speak and he can’t move his right side to give you some insight. We are going to have him in a room with 2 doors that can close off the room. But when one of the doors is open I need to keep my 1 1/2 yr old BLM from going into the room and jumping up on his bed. He also has a feeding tube in his stomach which naturally he doesn’t need an 80 lb. dog on his stomach. So if anyone has any suggestions on how to keep him away from his bed I would really appreciate it.
     
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    Baby gates!
     
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    You might also find your dog surprises you by being aware that your father needs to be treated gently. They are often very empathetic...
     
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    I have been a nurse who made house calls. I don’t know how it is called in English....Often people had dogs. When I came to take care of the person who needed to be taken care of I often put the dog in another room. They had to wait until I was finished. And they did calmly.
    They understood. You have to teach the dog. And indeed, baby gates are also very welcome, but you may be surprised that he understand the situation!
     
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    Thank you all for the responses. I have tried baby gates for him before and he just climbed over them. I hope he does realize that Dad is in a different state than he was before. He always loved my Dad and would lick him to death and always jump in his lap so hopefully he will sense he’s not the same as he was.
     
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    Sorry to hear about your dad.
    I think you may be surprised too.
    I agree be careful with nurses Tec visiting as dogs sometimes don't like their people beong touched, especially if there is any pain reaction.
    If the baby gates aren't an option I would do a bit of training on leash in his room, teaching all 4 paws down Etc.
     
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    Doug and Moo were wonderful with my dad he had extensive cancer in his stomach area. It was very painful and the dogs were so gentle and careful. They especially Doug, he comforted him when nothing else seemed too. It was a lovely thing to see. I was very careful at first but it was like the others have said the dogs on some level understand they had to be careful.
     
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    Thanks again for the answers
     
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    So sorry about your dad. My dad had a stroke, similar paralysis and inability to speak as your dad. He also came home, although we had a full-time carer. It was hard work nevertheless for my mom and me even though we weren’t doing the “heavy lifting” - it’s very emotionally draining. I think having your dog there will be a fantastic distraction for you all and will no doubt bring cheerful relief.
     
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    You all were right, and I’m SO glad you were! They brought my Dad home and got him set up and we let my dog in there and stayed watch and he just stayed on the floor and let my Dad pet his head and lick it. Later on during the night we couldn’t find him and he was in there curled up On my dads bed. So you all were right and thanks again!
     
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    So glad it went well xxx
     
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    Oh, that's very touching. What a good boy. I am sure your dad got some comfort from having him there, too.
     
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    I know my dad loved having the dogs in. They were a great comfort to him.
     
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    So heartwarming. I’m sure he’s going to help your dad a lot.
     
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    I’m so glad it has gone well. Dogs can sense when their human family are poorly. When I’m having a bad day with my back and legs, Harley is very gentle with me. She sniffs my neck every morning and whatever she senses is how she will act all day!
    I’m sure having the comfort will be good for your dad too.
     
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    Brought a little lump to my throat this did x
     
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