Ugh, I'm getting so frustrated with hubby.This puppy phase is taking a toll on us both and my anxiety is already getting high. I love the little guy but I don't "like" him at times. I am trying my hardest to curb this puppy biting and maybe I'm trying to follow the "rules" too precisely but I do all the reading and stuff and relay to him the best things to do, half the time he wont even do what I've said we should do. So when puppy is biting, he just says "stop it", and will move his arms all over the place or push him away which causes him to come back even harder, or he will bop him on the nose when he's doing this, I keep telling him to stop and he does for a bit but then does it again later. I know he's playing but then later in the midst of it he'll get bit hard and then blames the puppy.. It is true that the puppy seems to "bit" at him more or he seems to get worse wounds from the puppy and you'd think he'd get it and he doesn't. Don't get me wrong even with me doing the whole no bite and walking away or he still gets me, but at least I'm consistent. Part of me thinks that our 1 yr old black lab loves hubby and all of his "playful" things so I keep thinking it would be no different with this little guy as he gets older, I know it's hubbies way of playing but I feel like we'll never get past this stage if he doesn't "help" . Am I the only one with this issue?
One of the hardest things in puppy ownership is training the OH! We have all been there (some still there!). I took a step back and ended up letting my OH take all of the responsibility, but he quickly came to me after a few days and asked how I managed to get her to walk nicely on lead, not bite, have snuggles etc. I managed to get him onboard after this and generally he now listens to me, but still occasionally does his own thing! They are very frustrating!
Oh God no! Lilly is now 8 years old and we never agree on anything about her "training" - I use that loosely now - or how many gravy bones she gets at bedtimes, or whether it is good to make her bark by asking her "where's the pussy cat?". Going to training classes together I think is the best way of getting some consistency, but the OH has to engage, not just hang around on the sidelines.
My husband isn't all that bad, but sometimes he is so laid back I want to scream. I'm an anxious person and this is my first dog. He is the most relaxed person I've ever met and has had several dogs. He constantly tells me that "everything will be fine" while I'm worrying that our pup is a demon dog!
Well I guess it makes me feel a little better but I think mine is still worse lol. He started doing the training with me but we are going to a place that is also a doggie daycare and he has allergies yea I know weird how we have a dog but they don't bother him, it's certain dogs and all cats and depends on how much hair is around. So anyways within 20 min of the training his eyes were red he was sneezing like crazy he had to leave. Now I have tried showing him these things but he is always busy and doesn't take the time to really want to learn, i think he thinks well we didn't do any of this with our other dog, 11 yr old black lab and he's been a great, well behaved dog that he can just do it the same. He is VERY laid back and just a "kid" himself he's just that way, never likes to be the "bad" guy. So anyways its really frustrating.
I hear you....my OH just expects Maxx to 'know' every word in the English language and does not have any consistency. He is the primary carer as he is at home all day while I go out to work. Maxx is awful out of the house, lunging and pulling. I get so embarrassed but OH says 'he will grow out of it'. GAH
Yes we have an 11 year old black Lab - she was my first dog and she came to us at 5 months (DH grew up with dogs and had had several of his own before we met). I knew nothing about training and left it to him (I was working then). She is such a gentle, compliant, lovely dog. She never got treats. Last year we got an 8 week old puppy and she has been the source of a lot of tension at times. DH’s methods are fairly old school (and he is also very laid back) and I knew I didn’t want those used. I just got on with it and bit by bit DH could see it was working and slowly he started doing what I was doing. It’s not perfect, there are still a couple of things I don’t like but I love that he takes a pot of treats out with him (he does all the main walking) and also the whistle which I know he uses as he sometimes has it hanging round his neck when they return. Both dogs absolutely adore him (as do I ) so can’t ask for better than that . Eventually though, puppies grow up - ours is 18 months. She is such a good girl in the house so harmony has been restored .
Yes. Recommended. We both go, but OH has to do all the handling. I walk & train Coco every day, so OH has to step up at dog school. Dose your OH up with antihistamines and make him go back to training. Maybe find another training establishment with less dogs/allergens. But with positive reinforcement methods he won't be the "bad guy" - he'll always be the good guy. That's the beauty of it.
"Luna, go away! No, go away! Get away!" "She doesn't understand that. Tell her to do something she does understand like 'go to your bed'." "She does understand, she's just doing it to annoy me." "Sigh. Luna, go to your bed." Luna goes to bed... Every. Single. Day.
I think we might have fallen into a useful technique by accident, where my husband does the puppy training class (he just happened to be holding the lead at the wrong time on our first session!) and has really got on board with it. On walks out and about, we're still learning how to both look after Kipper without criticising the other person and it doesn't always go well... The one thing that I'm still biting my lip on is "Kipper!" with no instruction, used for 'leave', 'come', 'stay' etc. What do you want him to do?! Grr. My mum does this too
Ha ha yes, this. Sometimes we walk out from our house, and down to the main road - about 5 minutes. Coco has pulled all the way. OH getting madder and madder. Me: "I haven't heard you ONCE tell hem what you want him to do". OH: "He should know"
This thread. Oh my gosh. It is like you are all married to my husband. I am busy with a doctoral degree in human behaviour but there are times where I just stand and look at him while my brain processes what I just heard.
YES! "Shadow, Shadow, Shadow, Shadow, Shadow, Shadow, Shadow..." The number of times, I've said "You need to give him a cue, too". Amazingly, Shadow understands what he wants 99% of the time, so what do I know?
That sounds like my husband, off, get down without showing him what that means like he's suppose to know what "off" or get down means. Show him for crying out loud. quit, stop it, yea well he doesn't really hear those words, try no bite UGH I get it.
Well, it's my fault to be honest. I just need to train "Go away" to mean "go to your bed". Then we'd all be happy.
Puppy will bite his feet and legs and it's the same things, stop it, knock it off, go, pushes him away and makes him come back even harder, then he gets frustrated that the puppy isn't listening. I tried to tell him the things to do but he just doesn't get it, yet. I don't know. I guess if he wants bit up legs arms and feet then that's his problem, although I worry it will mess up with his training and poor puppy will be confused.
