I believe I'm going through the puppy Blues but I'm not sure. My situation is a little bit different. The ex husband gave my daughter a puppy about a month ago. He was supposed to have her in his house,so every time my daughter visits,the puppy was there. My daughter asked about three weeks ago to bring the puppy home for a couple of weeks and I said yes because I thought it was a good idea. But when it was time to return her, my daughter didn't want to and the ex said he couldn't take care of her anymore. And that if I gave her back, he will be returning her to the breeder and that when he got her, the puppy was skinny and scared. I said yes for her to Stay here. She is the most beautiful and intelligent puppy and so sweet. But I work full time, single mother and even tough my mother helps a lot,I'm the one who comes at 7 or 8pm to clean the messy house and then waking up twice or more at night, and then to work early morning. I've been thinking to give her back to the ex but then I feel she will not have more loving home than mine. I really love her but I feel it's too much. I don't even have time to train properly. I think about rehoming her and it breaks my heart but at the same time I want to. So basically, I want to keep her but I don't want to. It's already hard been a single mother with my daughter and working full time. And then all the expenses. I just feel this was not my choice. Because I was supposed to give back to the ex,my daughter will still see her puppy and everybody happy. But I don't have the hearth to give her back but also I've been crying a lot lately, worrying about the puppy and her future. I've been depressed, something I've not been since the divorce. I just think I'm a horrible person for even thinking about giving her away and for not being happy about her.
Hi @Monse Welcome to the site. I wish that it would be under less trying circumstances. You are not a bad person if you desire your puppy to reach her full potential. The way I read your account is that your dog would be better off with someone who has the time to look after and train the dog. Seems to be a very mature and good assessment of your situation. Find a good home for the puppy. I think you know that that is the best thing for the dog. Ultimately your decision, but you are not a bad person if you do find a good home for your pup.
Hello @Monse I really feel for you. this sad situation was not your doing and you are a kind person to think of the pups needs. It will be tough for your daughter but maybe a bit of a life lesson for her about animal care. Maybe you could find a family that could keep in touch or send the odd picture. I think the sooner the better for all. Maybe it could be a goal for the future to have a dog when circumstances change and maybe a rabbit or something easier in the mean time will fulfill your daughters need to have a pet. I am nagged to death daily by my two 10 year olds for their own pet ! Best wishes with your decision. Emma .
Your post does not say how old your daughter is, or how old the puppy is. Is your daughter old enough to participate meaningfully in raising a pup? Puppies are a lot of work, but get to be less work much faster than children. By a year old, they are a lot lower maintenance but they still have to have interaction with their people. A lot depends on where you live, and whether you have some fenced yard space also. If you really want a dog you can probably make it work, but it would be a shame to do it just because you feel guilty about re-homing him.
