It is our wedding anniversary today so have had a few visitors. Harley does get excited for a few mins then calms down and wants to play ball or tug or find it with someone. The in laws turned up unexpected and really really annoyed me. MIL decided if was best to shout at Harley to sit down about 5 times. I explained that she responds well done people speaking happy and calm......this was ignored. MIL then decided to tell Harley she was a stupid dog and told me that obviously I'm the one who trains her as my hubby wouldn't let her behave this way . I done some sit, wait then trreat which she done perfect . I told MIL to sit down and ignore Harley as being stood up and waving hands around every time she came near her was just winding her up.....ignored again. After she shouted at Harley again I had enough and went into the garden and played ball with Harley......MIL stood watching inside, knocking on the window to get harleys attention!! Hubby told MIL that we were getting a foster rescue dog next week.........arghhhhhhh......MIL told me that was ridiculous seeing as I couldn't even control the one I've got . This has just about ruined my day . MIL has never liked me as I already had a daughter when I met hubby and she liked his previous partner! I'm sooooo annoyed. Sorry for the rant, but don't want to have a conversation with hubby about it as it won't be good the way I'm feeling
Re: In laws Oh dear, try not to take any notice and that should take the wind out of her sails, though she had no right to shout at your dog and I would have told her so as you did. She doesn't sound a very pleasant woman. It is your life, your dog and your foster, nothing to do with her ;D Your husband cannot help what she thinks, so rant on here and try not to say anything to him!
Re: In laws Aw no Ternaya........ Deep breaths. She sounds like she will never be happy. Your life is richer with your dogs(s). If all fails, glass or two of wine should help. SEVERAL for the MIL perhaps......
Re: In laws Sympathies!! On the plus side, it sounds like they live close enough that you don't ever have to do the full week residential visit- that one's a real killer ;D ;D She almost certainly will continue to pick holes in everything. Hey ho, her loss. It might be that there needs to be a specific stash of very yummy frozen kings and great treats which come out when they visit, so Harley (and indeed the new family member, shortly ) can go somewhere quiet and work through them happily, while you, err, try to smile politely and make pleasant conversation ;D ;D By the way, I too support the idea of ranting on here, and saying nothing to OH- he was probably cringing himself, and it may even come, at some stage, to HIM criticising her, but it will make you look so much the bigger person if you can say back 'Oh no dear, it's OK, I know she means well really', even if you have to go punch a pillow afterwards ;D
Re: In laws Sympathy from me too. ( I also had an awful MIL.) Fancy coming round and criticising you on your wedding anniversary of all days!
Re: In laws She sounds delightful!! Maybe next time she pops in you unfortunately have to take a long long long walk with Harley, it would be such a shame if you missed the majority of her visit. You could always suggest that Harley doesn't like her....
Re: In laws I have utterly lovely in-laws but we really do have completely opposite views on dogs which drives me completely nuts so I totally sympathise I think when my MIL led me to understand she thought I was mad to get a second dog I managed to keep a lid on it quite well. Obviously not well enough though as she felt the need to tell me that she was entitled to an opinion : at that point I had reached my limit and told her that indeed she was entitled to an opinion but that was all as our decision had absolutely nothing to do with her. Needless to say the atmosphere was somewhat strained until my husband and father-in-law returned from whatever jaunt they were on ;D Rant away !!!! ;D
Re: In laws Thank you all She really is a miserable woman. She likes to think she is always right, doesn't like that I don't bow down to her. My husband told me earlier that he could see I was upset so is going to take Harley to his mum's house this week and let her jump in her pond and jump all over her plants....he said it's what she deserves ;D My mum really doesn't like dogs - they scare her. But at least she tries when she comes up....she always brings treats for Harley which she gets as soon as she sits. She has even been asking about Spero and asked what treats he will be allowed (I only allow Harley certain treats due to her tummy) it means a lot to me that my mum is trying.
Re: In laws Glad that your husband see through his Mum's behaviour. And it's lovely that your Mum is trying even though dogs are not her thing
Re: In laws Oh dear, sorry you had this miserable experience. This indeed is a safe place for a rant, so feel free to use it when needed....which I hope will not be often. Glad to hear your hubby has understanding of how you feel otherwise it would be really miserable. Hope you managed to do a little celebrating despite the MIL.
Re: In laws I love it that your mum is planning her treats for Spero. Lucky dog! Focus on the good things and lovely people.
Re: In laws [quote author=Oberon link=topic=10637.msg157631#msg157631 date=1429484386] Glad that your husband see through his Mum's behaviour. And it's lovely that your Mum is trying even though dogs are not her thing [/quote] Hear hear! Good on them
Re: In laws You have a MIL just like mine, expert on everything. Whilst I respect that people can have different views to mine, there was only one right way hers. She knew everything about dog training which was amazing because she,d never had one. I am a MIL now myself and know that my ideas and my kids and their partners spouses will, indeed should be different from mine. So I keep the lips buttoned. What binds us all together on this Forum is a desire to do the best for our dogs. I see what I haven't achieved and forget what I have (because if I have done it is just luck, anyone else it is down to hard work) You recently described Harley as a work in progress. Molly is and I certainly am. At 68 I still keep hoping I'll learn some self discipline then I wouldn't be sat here on my I pad when I should be sorting out the kitchen
Re: In laws Sorry you had such an awful visit from the MIL, apart from that did you have a nice Anniversary? I hope so xxx
