Rubbish day

Discussion in 'Obedience' started by Emily, Sep 30, 2016.

  1. Emily

    Emily Supporting Member Forum Supporter

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    One of the instructors at our dog club very kindly set up an obedience ring and a rally-o course at our dog club today so a few people competing next weekend could get some practice in.

    We are not ready to compete yet but they were happy for us to come along and have a go through the rally course to see what it's all about and where we need to get to before we can give it a go for real.

    I know that Ella can perform each task well enough to compete but she struggles to focus and put it all together, especially when there are other people and dogs around (yes @JulieT I can hear you now - proofing proofing proofing :D:D) . Our first run through was a bit crazy and the instructor was very patient and super helpful, encouraging us to break down each step and heavily reward for each correct movement (you're not allowed to use treats when competing but it's fine for learning).

    Then, our instructor left to help those going for a CCD pass in the obedience ring. No one else was using the rally course so I took Ella in so that we could go through each station separately and have a bit of fun. Mid way through, a lady walks in (she actually competes at a high level but I've never met her before), tells me to stop, there's no point in continuing as we're doing it all badly and we'd fail if we tried to compete like that! She comes straight up to Ella (who is now bouncing like a loon) and tells me that my dog (that she's never met before) is clearly stressed and untrained.

    What she didn't realise is that I was really pleased with what Ella was doing just before she interrupted. Ella was focused on me and working through the course with me. She also didn't realise that, at this stage, I couldn't care less that Ella's nose wasn't stuck on my leg. As far as I was concerned, she was walking at heel (or near enough to heel) with a loose lead and that was great for us. Instead she interrupted us, humiliated and insulted me and made me never want to show up again. Also, I don't care how well her dog is trained, she doesn't know my dog. I might not know much about training but I know my dog and I know what she looks like when she's stressed. I took it very personally that this woman would suggest that my dog was stressed and, even worse, that I would try and work her if she was.

    Just feeling a little deflated. Thankfully tomorrow is another day.
     
  2. edzbird

    edzbird Supporting Member Forum Supporter

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    What a hideous woman! Ella did just great. By tomorrow she will be history, you & Ella can carry on, having fun - that's the important bit - you're both having fun.
     
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  3. JulieT

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    Come on, up you get - you are not going to let that stupid woman spoil all the good work you are doing with Ella! You're doing great, you can't let a complete stranger on an ego trip do this to you. :)

    So the thing to do now is work out what you should have said to that woman. Make it nice and short and snappy - don't witter on and explain, you just need a nice short reply. Then, the next time someone does something similar (and they will) you can trot out your reply and carry on with what you are doing.

    Don't be like me though, and make it too short. I'm afraid if I'm stuck for something to say in a situation like that, my natural inclination is "p*ss off". Which does the job, but isn't a good look I feel. :D
     
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  4. Emily

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    Hehe, I think I like your natural response :D
     
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    Ha ha ha ha ,that makes me laugh ,wish I could be like that sometimes!

    Don't be disheartened by a horribly rude woman ,she might be an obedience champion but she's a manners and people skills LOSER!
     
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    Ooooh, I've got some good words I could use to describe her, but I fear this company is too polite to share them!

    I used to be the sort to get all flustered by this kind of thing, but now, I would be more likely to go into a rant.

    You don't know me.
    You don't know my dog.
    You don't know where we started.
    You don't know our goals.
    You don't know how long we've been working towards them.
    Your opinion is coming from a place of absolute ignorance and is therefore utterly meaningless.

    Turn around and walk off, hoping to every deity out there that your dog can look dignified for just a second...
     
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    ... or you could say something like: 'The difference between us is that one day my dog will be beautifully trained. You however will ALWAYS be opinionated and rude'.

    YESSSSSSSSSSS :D:D:D
     
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    Horrible woman! She had absolutely no right or need to interfere like that. I hope you can put it behind you and get back to training.
     
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    Just prove her wrong and carry on training and enjoying yourselves everyone's probably been treated to her rudness and she's probably really loved and respected ;) oh and tell her to p*** off from me
     
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    Horrible woman! I agree with the others take no notice of this rude women. You should of said when I want your opinion I will ask you for it. By the way I wouldn't call her a lady :D
    Chin up Em tomorrow is a new day.
     
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    So sorry you encountered a poorly socialised human. They really shouldn't be let off the lead in a public environment.
     
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    Words fail me.....
    I think I would have struggled for a polite answer.
     
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    They should be muzzled too.

    What you call rubbish we call garbage and since today was our garbage pickup day my first thought was your thread would be about getting into the rubbish. That could have been worse,right? Sorry you had a bad day.
     
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  14. Emily

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    Rubbish was the only polite word I could come up with at the time :D. And yes, getting into the rubbish could have been worse :puke:
     
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    Ugh what an awful lady, I'm sorry that she made you feel down about yourself. I hope you have no more interactions with her and hopefully she never takes a role as an instructor at your club.
     
  16. UncleBob

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    Oh I don't know, I think some people manage to carry it off ;)
     
  17. UncleBob

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    Very Churchillian ... I like it ;)
     
  18. UncleBob

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    Emily,

    Just to add to the sentiment of the other posters, when I was at school ( a looong time ago) one of my teachers said that in these situations you should ask yourself :
    'Do I value the opinion of the person that is speaking? If yes, then, painful as it may be, take note of what they say and give it due consideration. If not, then it is just background noise - treat it accordingly!' ;)
     
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    Oh dear, Emily, what a rude woman. Onwards and upwards - she's not worth getting upset about. You and Ella are what matters.
     
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    Some people really have too high of an opinion of themselves and she sounds like she fits in that category.
    You have done a fantastic job with Ella and by doing something new shows you ENJOY spending time with your girl. I prefer dogs with a character over those who are 'overly trained'.
     

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