I am finding Chepi's spay (in 3 days) hard to come to terms with. Yet I know it has to be done. Did anyone else feel like this or am I just being daft?
Re: Sad about spay No, you're not being daft. I felt sad too when mine were spayed. It's important to cling onto the fact that it IS for the best ... and they bounce back very quickly afterwards too.
Re: Sad about spay Even though I am strongly pro-neutering, with my first dog I booked him into the vet well ahead of time but then cancelled it a few days before. I just felt really bad about it, because I felt sorry for him. I ended up booking him in a few weeks later, but I still felt somewhat guilty. But I didn't regret doing it once it was done and he was back to his normal self (within 48 hours). I can definitely understand how you are feeling about it.
Re: Sad about spay Completely understandable, all we can ever do for our pups is make what we think is the right choices for them
Re: Sad about spay I was the same. In my mind I knew that it was the right thing, and that Holly was in good hands. That didn't stop me worrying about her.
Re: Sad about spay Oh yes. With both of mine I felt terrible. Taking them in for surgery when they are not ill is an awful feeling. I was prepared for the feeling with the second and made sure I has a really packed and busy day ahead to pass the time. Fear not - very soon your biggest worry will be keeping her quiet
Re: Sad about spay Jane, it is a very strange feeling when you leave her in the care of the vets and walk out of the surgery, I didn't know what to do with myself and went and sobbed int he car :! I hadn't prepared a day of activities to keep me busy, you must do this! She will be fine and very happy to see you when you go and collect her. Keeping Chepi quiet afterwards will be your biggest challenge! x
Re: Sad about spay Thanks everyone. I have a list of jobs lined up for the day: taking the car for a wash; taking the duvet to the cleaners; washing the floor; culling stuff from my bedroom and maybe a stroll around the supermarket! Is jumping up onto the sofa out? That will be a challenge. What if I lift her up and down? Washing all of the vetbeds on the weekend and have got a few clean old towels on hand.
Re: Sad about spay Keeping busy is good I would say it's fine to lift her on and off the sofa - just make sure you are sitting beside her so you can prevent her jumping off once she's on. She will be fine I'm sure and she will be so happy to see you when you pick her up - lots of waggy cuddles
Re: Sad about spay Big hugs. I'm feeling conflicted about Willow's, too. Not that I would consider for a moment not having it done, but now it's coming around, it's horrible to think of putting your pup through what is essentially an unnatural surgery. For me, it's also marking the progression of time and I almost feel like I'm losing my puppy. Which is ridiculous.
Re: Sad about spay Blow the housework Jane Go out and do something YOU want to do but generally cannot because of the time constraints of a pup. Go for an amble round the shops, have a nice lunch with a friend you really need to catch up with. Make a plus out of the day. Chepi will sleep through it and by day two you will need all your energy to stop her bouncing around like a mad thing.
Re: Sad about spay [quote author=Mollly link=topic=9880.msg143428#msg143428 date=1423840675] Blow the housework Jane Go out and do something YOU want to do but generally cannot because of the time constraints of a pup. [/quote] This!! You will miss her terribly if you are in the house. Book things to do out and about - something different and busy.
Re: Sad about spay Ah, well, I was considering getting a manicure but my nails seem shocking now I am a dog owner! How's that happened?
Re: Sad about spay It's hard to put our babies through an elective surgery - and the house is so quiet without them...but it's all for the best. I did my best to keep Bella from jumping up or down off the sofa, our bed, etc...but she got the better of me a few times. After a couple day sI didn't worry quite so much, and my vet said after 5-7 days she had no restrictions...so I just went with it. They are sooo resilient!
Re: Sad about spay Ok Jane, you've started with the manicure, build on that. How about that most indulgent experience, an afternoon at the cinema watching (uninterrupted) a movie of your choice. Or, if you are like me, take advantage of the peace and tranquility to set up a project. I have always enjoyed crafts, but crafts and pups are not compatible, Chepi is getting bigger now you could find something to do in the evenings. Make the day a plus.
Re: Sad about spay I have to admit I was terrified when I put Penny in for her Spey, I was having all sorts of irrational thoughts about her not coming through the anaesthetic or they opened her and found something horrible, she would be stressed staying at the vets all day.... But she was fine. I think what helped was that I went to college with the vet nurse who looked after her that day so I knew she was in good hands. The decision to have her speyed was difficult for me as I had always been strictly pro early neutering from working in rescue centres. After doing my own research I didn't actually want to get her speyed but due to a couple of health and behaviour issues reluctantly decided it would be for the best. Now she's had it done and fully recovered I don't regret it at all.
Re: Sad about spay I can't add to what everyone else has said Jane....it's a horrible feeling....I had visitors coming the next week so I baked and cooked items all day for the freezer ....Dexter was like a tsunami when I picked him up...it wasn't like anything had happened to him,I hit the floor like I'd been shot in the vets reception to stop him leaping up at me! I think we feel so much worse about it than they do xxx
