ᴍʏ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ ɢɪʀʟ ᴜᴘᴅᴀᴛᴇ

ɢᴏᴏᴅ ᴍᴏʀɴɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʏ'ᴀʟʟ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇsᴇ ᴠᴇʀʏ ᴡᴇᴇ ʜᴏᴜʀs ᴏғ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏʀɴɪɴɢ. ɴᴏᴛ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ sʟᴇᴇᴘ & ɪ'ᴠᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴘᴏsᴛ ᴀɴʏ ᴜᴘᴅᴀᴛᴇs ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴍʏ ɢɪʀʟs , sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ & sᴛᴀʀʀ, sᴏ ɪ ғɪɢᴜʀᴇᴅ ɴᴏ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ᴛʜᴀɴ ɴᴏᴡ.

ɪᴛ's ᴛᴏᴛᴀʟʟʏ ᴀʙsᴜʀᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴍᴇ & ᴀʙsᴏʟᴜᴛᴇʟʏ ɪɴsᴜʟᴛɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴀʏ ɪ'ᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴛʀᴇᴀᴛᴇᴅ ʟᴀᴛᴇʟʏ ᴛʀʏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ɢᴇᴛ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ. ғɪʀsᴛ ᴏғ ᴀʟʟ, ɪ'ᴍ ᴏɴ ᴅɪsᴀʙɪʟɪᴛʏ ᴅᴜᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴀ ғᴇᴡ ᴠᴇʀʏ sᴇʀɪᴏᴜs ʜᴇᴀʟᴛʜ ɪssᴜᴇs ɪ ᴀᴄǫᴜɪʀᴇᴅ & ɪ'ʟʟ ʙᴇ ᴏɴ ɪᴛ ғᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ʀᴇsᴛ ᴏғ ᴍʏ ʟɪғᴇ (ᴏʀ ᴜɴᴛɪʟ ɪᴛ ʀᴜɴs ᴏᴜᴛ ғɪʀsᴛ ʙᴜᴛ ɪ ᴅɪɢʀᴇss) ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ'ᴍ ᴊᴜsᴛ ʟᴀᴢʏ ᴏʀ ᴀ ғʀᴇᴇ ʟᴏᴀᴅᴇʀ & ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴɴᴀ ᴡᴏʀᴋ ᴀᴛ ᴀʟʟ. ɪ'ᴍ ғᴀʀ ғʀᴏᴍ ʟᴀᴢʏ ɴᴏʀ ᴀ ғʀᴇᴇ ʟᴏᴀᴅᴇʀ ʙᴜᴛ ɪ'ᴅ ᴅᴏ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ғᴏʀ ᴇɪᴛʜᴇʀ ᴏғ ᴏᴜʀ ɢɪʀʟs & ᴛʜᴇ ғᴀᴄᴛ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ғɪx ᴡʜᴀᴛ's ᴡʀᴏɴɢ ᴡɪᴛʜ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ & ɪ'ᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ɢᴇᴛᴛɪɴɢ ᴀɴʏ ʜᴇʟᴘ ғʀᴏᴍ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ sʜᴏᴜʟᴅ ʙᴇ ʜᴇʟᴘɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏsᴛ. ᴡᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴀᴛ's ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴍɪɴᴅ ʙʟᴏᴡɪɴɢ & ᴅɪsʀᴇsᴘᴇᴄᴛғᴜʟ & ᴠᴇʀʏ ᴜɴᴘʀᴏғᴇssɪᴏɴᴀʟ.

ɪ'ᴠᴇ ᴛᴀᴋᴇɴ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇʀ ʀᴇɢᴜʟᴀʀ ᴠᴇᴛ, ᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘᴇᴛsᴍᴀʀᴛ ᴠᴇᴛ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴀ ғᴇᴡ sᴘᴇᴄɪᴀʟɪsᴛs ᴡᴇ'ᴠᴇ ɢᴏᴛᴛᴇɴ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴀʟᴏɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴀʏ. ɪ'ᴠᴇ ᴀʟsᴏ ʙᴇᴇɴ sᴜʀᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛᴀᴋᴇ ᴀʟʟ ᴏғ ᴛʜᴇ ᴀʀᴛɪᴄʟᴇs, ɪɴғᴏ, sᴏᴍᴇ ᴘɪᴄᴛᴜʀᴇs , ᴇᴛᴄ. ᴛᴏʟᴅ ᴇᴀᴄʜ ᴏɴᴇ ɪɴ ᴇxᴛᴇɴsɪᴠᴇ ᴅᴇᴛᴀɪʟ, ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ ғᴇʟᴛ ᴡᴀs ᴡʀᴏɴɢ ᴡɪᴛʜ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ & ᴛʜᴇ sᴘᴇᴄɪғɪᴄ ᴛᴇsᴛs ɪ ᴡᴀs ᴛᴏʟᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴀsᴋ ғᴏʀ. ᴇᴀᴄʜ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ɪ'ᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴛᴏʟᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ.sʜᴏᴜʟᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴅɪᴀɢɴᴏsᴇ ᴏʀ ᴀᴛᴛᴇᴍᴘᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅɪᴀɢɴᴏsᴇ ᴍʏ "ᴘᴇᴛ" ʙᴇғᴏʀᴇ sᴇᴇɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴏᴄᴛᴏʀ. ᴡᴇʟʟ, ᴊᴜsᴛ ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴋɪᴅs, ɪ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴍʏ ғᴜʀʙᴀʙɪᴇs ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴀʀᴇ ʜᴜᴍᴀɴ ᴋɪᴅs. ᴛʜᴇʏ'ᴠᴇ ʜᴀᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴄʜᴀɴɢᴇ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ғʀᴏᴍ ʜᴇʀ ᴅɪᴇᴛ, ᴛᴏ ᴀʟʟ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴇᴅs ᴛʜᴇʏ'ᴠᴇ ᴛʀɪᴇᴅ ᴏɴ ʜᴇʀ, ᴛᴏ ʜᴏᴡ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ɪ ғᴇᴇᴅ ᴛʜᴇᴍ & ʜᴜᴍᴀɴ ғᴏᴏᴅ ɪɴғᴏ. ɪ sᴛɪʟʟ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴡʜᴀᴛ's ᴡʀᴏɴɢ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴍʏ ᴏʟᴅᴇsᴛ ɢɪʀʟ. ʙᴜᴛ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴅᴏ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪs ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴍʏ ʙᴀʙɪᴇs ᴀʀᴇ ᴛᴏᴛᴀʟʟʏ sᴇᴘᴀʀᴀᴛᴇᴅ & ʜᴀᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴇɴ ғᴏʀ ᴀ ᴡʜɪʟᴇ sᴏ ᴛʜᴇʏᴛᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴛʀʏ ᴛᴏ ғɪɢʜᴛ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴇᴀᴄʜ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜsᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ғɪɢʜᴛs ʜᴀᴠᴇ ɢᴏᴛᴛᴇɴ ᴘʀᴇᴛᴛʏ ʙᴀᴅ. ᴛʀʏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʏ ᴀᴛᴛᴇɴᴛɪᴏɴ ᴛᴏ ʙᴏᴛʜ ʙᴀʙɪᴇs ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜsᴇ ᴛʜᴇʏ ʙᴏᴛʜ ᴀʀᴇ ɴᴇᴇᴅʏ & ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴇɪᴛʜᴇʀ ᴏғ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴛᴏ ғᴇᴇʟ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴛʀᴀ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴛʜᴀɴ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴡᴇ'ʀᴇ ᴅᴇᴀʟɪɴɢ ᴡɪᴛʜ ɴᴏᴡ. ʙᴜᴛ ᴛʜᴇʏ'ʀᴇ sᴏ ᴠᴇʀʏ sᴀᴅ & ᴘᴏᴜᴛɪɴɢ & ᴏʙᴠɪᴏᴜsʟʏ ᴍɪssɪɴɢ ᴇᴀᴄʜ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ & ᴀʀᴇɴ'ᴛ ᴀᴄᴛɪɴɢ ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴛʜᴇʏ'ᴠᴇ ᴇᴠᴇʀ ʙᴇᴇɴ ʜᴀᴘᴘʏ ɴᴏʀ ᴡɪʟʟ ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴇᴠᴇʀ ʙᴇ ᴀɢᴀɪɴ.

ᴘʟᴇᴀsᴇ sᴏᴍᴇᴏɴᴇ ʜᴇʟᴘ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇʟᴘ ᴍʏ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ ɢɪʀʟ ɢᴇᴛ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ. ɴᴏɴᴇ ᴏғ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘʟᴀᴄᴇs ᴡᴇ'ᴠᴇ ɢᴏɴᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡɪʟʟ ᴘᴇʀғᴏʀᴍ ᴛʜᴇ sᴘᴇᴄɪғɪᴄ ᴛʜʏʀᴏɪᴅ ʟᴇᴠᴇʟ ᴛᴇsᴛɪɴɢ ᴡʜᴇɴ ɪ ʀᴇǫᴜᴇsᴛ ɪᴛ & ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴡʜʏ. ᴛʜᴇʏ'ᴠᴇ ᴀʟʟ sᴀɪᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴀ ʀᴇɢᴜʟᴀʀ ʙʟᴏᴏᴅ ᴘᴀɴᴇʟ ᴡɪʟʟ ᴘɪᴄᴋ ᴜᴘ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴡᴇɪʀᴅ ᴏʀ ᴏᴜᴛ ᴏғ ʀᴀɴɢᴇ ᴏɴᴇ ᴡᴀʏ ᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ɪᴛʜᴇʀ. sᴏ, ɪ'ᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟᴇᴛᴇʟʏ ɪɴsᴜʟᴛᴇᴅ, ᴛᴏʟᴅ ᴛᴏ ʟᴇᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇxᴘᴇʀᴛs ᴅɪᴀɢɴᴏsᴇ ʜᴇʀ ɪɴsᴛᴇᴀᴅ ᴏғ ᴍᴇ ᴛʀʏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴛᴀᴋᴇ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ ᴊᴏʙ. ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ʟɪᴛᴛʟᴇ ʙɪᴛ ᴏғ ᴍᴏɴᴇʏ ɪ ᴅɪᴅ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ʜᴀs ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴅᴇᴘʟᴇᴛᴇᴅ & ᴀʙsᴏʟᴜᴛᴇʟʏ ᴡᴀsᴛᴇᴅ. ɪ ɴᴇᴇᴅ ʜᴇʟᴘ. ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴘᴀʏ ғᴏʀ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇʟsᴇ & ɪ ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ᴍᴇᴀɴ ᴛʜᴀᴛ. ʟᴜᴄᴋɪʟʏ ɪ'ᴠᴇ ᴀʟʀᴇᴀᴅʏ ɢᴏᴛᴛᴇɴ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ ғᴏᴏᴅ ᴛʜɪs ᴡᴇᴇᴋ sᴏ ᴛʜᴇʏ'ʟʟ ʙᴇ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴇᴀᴛ ʟɪᴋᴇ ʙɪɢ ɢɪʀʟs.

ʙᴜᴛ ɪғ ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ғɪɢᴜʀᴇ ᴏᴜᴛ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴏʀᴅᴇʀ ғᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴛᴏ ᴇᴀᴛ ᴏʀ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴏʀ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ᴏʀ ɢɪᴠᴇ ᴏʀ ᴘᴜʀᴄʜᴀsᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ ᴛʜᴀɴ ɪ'ᴍ ɢᴏɴɴᴀ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴘᴜᴛ ʜᴇʀ ᴛᴏ sʟᴇᴇᴘ ɪɴ ᴏʀᴅᴇʀ ғᴏʀ ʜᴇʀ, ᴍʏ ᴡɪғᴇ & ɪ & sᴛᴀʀʀ ᴄᴀɴ ʜᴀᴠᴇ sᴏᴍᴇ ᴘᴇᴀᴄᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴍɪɴᴅs, ʜᴇᴀʀᴛs & sᴏᴜʟs. ᴡᴇ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ʟɪᴠᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ʀᴇsᴛ ᴏғ ᴏᴜʀ ʟɪᴠᴇs ᴋᴇᴇᴘɪɴɢ ᴏᴜʀ ɢɪʀʟs ᴀᴘᴀʀᴛ & ᴡᴇ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴄʜᴀɴᴄᴇ ʟᴇᴛᴛɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ʙᴀᴄᴋ ᴄʟᴏsᴇ ɪɴ ᴄᴀsᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴀɢɢʀᴇssɪᴏɴ ᴀᴘᴘᴇᴀʀs ᴀɢᴀɪɴ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴘᴀʏ ғᴏʀ ᴀɴʏ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ & ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴍᴀᴋᴇs ᴍᴇ ғᴇᴇʟ sᴏ ʙᴀᴅ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜsᴇ ᴀʟʟ ɪ ᴄᴀɴ ᴅᴏ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇʟᴘ sᴏᴘʜɪᴇ ɪsɴ'ᴛ ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ᴀ ʜᴇʟᴘ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇʀ ᴊᴜsᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜsᴇ ɪ'ᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ʀɪᴄʜ & ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ sᴇᴇᴍ ᴛᴏ ɢᴇᴛ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ ᴛᴏ ʟɪsᴛᴇɴ ᴛᴏ ᴍᴇ. ʙᴜᴛ ɪ ᴡɪʟʟ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀʟʟᴏᴡ ʜᴇʀ ᴛᴏ ᴄᴏɴᴛɪɴᴜᴇ ᴏɴ ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴛʜɪs & ᴛʜɪɴᴋɪɴɢ sʜᴇ's ɪɴ ᴛʀᴏᴜʙʟᴇ ᴏʀ ᴡᴏɴᴅᴇʀɪɴɢ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sʜᴇ's ᴅᴏɴᴇ ᴡʀᴏɴɢ & ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ʙᴇ ᴀʀᴏᴜɴᴅ ʜᴇʀ ғᴀᴍɪʟʏ & ɴᴏᴛ ᴜɴᴅᴇʀsᴛᴀɴᴅɪɴɢ . ᴘʟᴇᴀsᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ ᴄᴀɴ ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ, ʜᴇʟᴘ ᴍᴇ ᴅᴏ, ᴘʟᴇᴀsᴇ ʜᴇʟᴘ ᴍᴇ ʜᴇʟᴘ ᴍʏ ʙᴀʙɪᴇs.

 

Hi @sabrina firemoon

Sometimes the dog fighting becomes so bad that even with the best dog behaviourists, you might have to surrender one of your dogs to another owner.

I'm sorry if this seems harsh. But it may well be better for the dogs and you. It is no good for their health to be living with constant anxiety.

 

Perhaps approach the Labrador rescues and enquire about rehoming one of your dogs.

I think you're all living in such a stressful situation, something has got to give!

 

I agree with the others, at this point. It doesn't sound like you have many other options?

If you could afford it, I would definitely be INSISTING your vet carries out the required blood tests for thyroid. You employ your vet - they should do what you request. If you have trouble finding a vet who will do it in your area, you could email Jean Dodds from the website I gave you the link to, and ask for a vet recommendation in your area for someone who will do the required test.

But if you don't have more money for either behavioural work, treatment, meds, or diagnosis, I don't really see what you can do other than live with them permanently separated or rehome one of them...