I've been away for a while.....

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  1. Candy

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    Hello Forum Folk,
    Little Joy and I haven't been around for a while. The reason is that sadly we lost Trevor, my husband ('Trev' to Joy) on 12/7/18 and we have been just trying to come to terms with this.He had been struggling for some time with asbestos damage to his lungs as a result of 30 years in the Fire Service but we seemed to be battling on OK so it came as a great shock when he suddenly became very poorly indeed and having been a nurse for many years I could tell it wasn't looking at all good. He died with his three lovely children and me there and was his own loving, kind, considerate self right to the end. Joy keeps looking for him, but we are keeping each other going and she is a sweet, important and massive help to me. Fortunately there are lots of very supportive friends and family around and the local dog walking community have been brilliant. We have also started Flyball again which we both very much enjoy. It feels like now is the right time to get back onto the Forum, so 'Hello Again' from me and GoodGirlJoy. Oh,and by the way, my email address has changed.What do I need to do about this as far as the Forum is concerned please? It's probably something very obvious but I'm not brilliant with technology, also still not quite thinking straight, so would appreciate some advice! Please don't worry too much, just treat me as normally as possible. I know I'll be alright eventually and Joy continues to live up to her name.
     
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    Dear Candy, first condolences for your loss, so deeply sorry to hear of your sad news. I am so pleased however, you have such a strong local community, your family and of course dear Joy to help you through such a difficult time.
    It is really lovely to see you here again and looking forward to hearing more about Joy and Flyball.

    Kate :hug:
     
  3. Candy

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    Thankyou, Kate, it's good to be back. Joy's such a little star, we hadn't been to Flyball since May but she was raring to go the moment we got back last Sunday, remembered everything and totally focused. We'd missed quite a bit of the last course due to Trevor becoming so much more poorly but I'm not being charged for this course because of that and it really helps to mix with other dog people and have the fun and chaos that is Flyball on a Sunday morning!
     
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    I wondered where you were @Candy.
    So sorry you've been through such a difficult time.
    Flyball sounds like good therapy for you and Joy. :hug:
     
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    So sorry for your sad loss. It is so good to hear from you and Joy again.
     
  6. Candy

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    Thankyou, Plum's mum and Cath. It feels good to be back. Always knew I would be, in time.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear of your bereavement. I'm glad you're feeling able to get out and about with GoodGirl Joy.
     
  8. Candy

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    Thankyou Joy, from me and your little namesake!
     
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    Hi candy, how good to hear from you, but I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.
    I'may pleased to hear though that you have a supportive community, and that Joy is as happy as she can be.
     
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    We have missed you on the forum and very sorry to hear about your loss. It must be a difficult time and I’m glad you have Joy to help you through.
     
  11. Granca

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    I’m very sorry to hear of your loss. It’s very important to have the support of family and friends, for you and for Joy.

    Looking forward to hearing more about your (or rather Joy’s?!) flyball activities.
     
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    Hi Candy, I am so very sorry to hear of your sad loss. If you would like to email me pippa@pippamattinson.com I will change your forum email address for you.
     
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    It's lovely to see you back Candy. I am very sorry to hear of your sad loss.
     
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    So sorry to hear this news.
    Thinking about you xx
     
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    Lovely honest thread.
     
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    So sorry for your loss. It's good to have you back xxx
     
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    So sorry for your loss Candy. x
     
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    Thankyou all, kind Forum people. You give support in more than just dog troubles and it's good to be back in touch. Little Joy is adapting quite well to the new situation, I think and has managed to do her own post this evening. I helped with the spelling. (Apart from 'jin', that is!)
     
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    Thanks, Swampy.
     

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