Hi everyone! I am new here and could use as much guidance and help as possible right now. We recently adopted a lab pup named Lincoln. We have had him almost a week now. He is 12 weeks and was the first of his litter to be adopted by us at the local rescue (he had 6 siblings). He is adorable and very loving. However, I am completely stressed out with this new fur baby. I have always had dogs around me since I could remember. I've grown up with them but never raised one myself from puppyhood, so this is all new to me. I honestly did not realize how much work goes into a puppy. Lincoln is crate trained during bedtime. However, he will whine and make a fuss for what seems like eternity. He does eventually quiet down for an hour or so, only to start back up again. We have tried moving his crate to different locations in the house and it seems he is most at ease in our family room with the curtains drawn and a nightlight on. If he is anywhere where there is light peeking through, he will go bananas all night. As much as I would like for him to be crated near our bedside, it is literally impossible to sleep in those circumstances. He still does go on and on in the family room, but I think he is easing into it. While Lincoln responds to some verbal cues and whistling, he is pretty much the most head strong dog I've ever encountered. He will sit down on the lawn and refuse to move if he does not want to be outside. I then will pick him up and take him to his bathroom spot where he will easily get distracted by biting on things and trying to eat leaves and sticks lol. He really does not enjoy being outside as much as you'd think a puppy would. Getting him to go potty takes about 45 minutes each time. I do give him treats when potty time is successful, so that he is rewarded for good behavior. I work from home, so I am the primary caretaker for Lincoln. It is extremely difficult to get any work done when he is spending a good 45 minutes each time to use the bathroom outdoors. He does have accidents inside, and many of them. Of course, I realize this is expected from a puppy so I do not get wound up about it. If I catch him going potty inside, I quickly pick him up and bring him outdoors. When he sees me cleaning up his mess, he thinks its play time, which is awfully frustrating. He also will refuse to go outside at times and then go potty as soon as he enters the house. This I do not understand and have no idea how to eradicate this behavior. Any suggestions regarding this would be greatly appreciated. This morning, he refused to go potty (it's been raining), so instead of just letting him run free in the house space, I put him back in his crate, fed him breakfast in his crate and waited 15 minutes to take him out again. He was not happy with this setup, but I am trying to teach him that he can't have free reign of the house until he has his morning potty. Lincoln is walked quite a bit, every hour or so and even 2x an hour after he has eaten a meal. I make sure to exercise him and play with him outside to wear him out so I can get work done and other household chore once we return indoors. He does nap, but they are short lived naps. Is it OK to put him in his kennel for 2 hours or so a day so I can get a little bit of work done even though I am at home? He has a ton of toys both outside his kennel and inside his kennel. He does seem to love his Kong toy when I freeze it with a bit of peanut butter, but it only keeps him busy and quiet for a few minutes and then we're back to whining and incessant barking. I do have to say, biting is not an issue with him, yet. He bites on things, but has not nipped at me or my husband, thankfully. As for me, I am irritated with the situation and feel like I have lost my freedom. My life revolves around the puppy. And while I do understand that this is normal in the beginning, I need some ME time to relax. My poor 10 year old cat is losing her mind. She can't stand the dog and hides under the bed all day even though there is a baby gate separating the two. She won't eat and drink water as she used to as she is scared to death, so I have resorted to personally having to feed her like a kitten again. Does this ever get better? I feel so awful for saying this but I am starting to wonder why I adopted him. I have broken down into tears and am completely stressed out. Tomorrow Lincoln will be meeting his "cousin" puppers (our friends dog) and I am hoping that the socialization will wear him out so that he will finally sleep throughout the night.