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Discussion in 'Labrador Puppies' started by editor, Oct 30, 2013.

  1. Dexter

    Dexter Moderator Forum Supporter

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    Hello Antoine,
    Lovely to see you on the Forum and see you taking such a conscientious approach researching getting a puppy. It's a big undertaking and it's not just the cost of your time in company for your puppy,there will also be quite a big financial responsibility for health and training classes so having the full support of your parents in this will be vital.
    If you proceed ,it's great you will have the first 6 weeks full time with your pup as that is the reality at that stage in their life,they need you A LOT. At 14 weeks when you go back to school the periods of time you would need to leave your puppy aren't recommended . You would need to be looking at arranging breaks and company through the day ,this again will incur costs if you have to arrange a puppy walker sitter.
    As dogs mature and you have a good foundation of basic training there is no reason that they can't travel between different homes,several of the forum dogs do this comfortably but I can imagine it being confusing to a puppy whilst you are toilet training and training settling at night .
    Sounds like you have a cat as a pet already and dogs and cats can be great friends but it isn't always something that happens straight away.You wouldn't want have your cat upset or worried and that could take management and you being around a lot to ensure no accidents happen to either animals.
    Have a read through the Puppy Board if you haven't already ,there's a lot of posts there about the challenges we've met along the way with our puppies .
    All I I would say is you really need to have support to go ahead,there was nothing I wanted more when I was your age than a puppy and it was non negotiable in our house ...and whilst I was cross at my parents at the time ,they were right....at 15 I had exams coming and a whole social life I knew nothing about and whilst I would have managed I could only have done it with my parents support and their lives weren't in a place where they were able to do that.....so I had to wait ........and got a pet goose instead,and that's a whole other story! :rofl:
     
  2. snowbunny

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    Hi Antoine, and welcome to the forum.

    Well, there are plenty of people who work full time and have dogs, so just because you're out all day, it doesn't mean you shouldn't have one. However, the thing to note is that dogs are very social animals and it's really not fair to have them alone (sorry, the cat doesn't count!! :) ) for that amount of time in a day. But, again, that doesn't mean you can't have a dog, it just means you need to make arrangements for the dog to have plenty of stimulation while you're out. This means using dog walkers, doggy day care and the like. Family members and neighbours, if they can be coerced into helping.

    Angela has given you some really helpful advice and I would also urge you to think about what - realistically - is going to happen to this dog as you get older. When you go to college, for example. Is it fair to take the dog with you? Probably not. In which case, will he be left with one of your parents? Will they be able to give him the attention he needs and deserves? Just think, this dog could be alive for as long as you've already lived! You'll be well into adulthood - around thirty! - by the time he reaches the end of his life, and your circumstances, dreams and desires will have changed massively in that time.

    So, as Angela says, you are going to really need the full support of your family members to ensure he is cared for throughout his life.

    Good luck with your research; you're definitely doing the right thing and demonstrates a level of maturity that might just mean you are capable and worthy of dog ownership, if you can iron out the details!
     
  3. Joy

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    It's great that you're thinking so carefully about a dog's needs. I think you need to imagine your own future a few years down the line - you may want to go to university or have a gap year travelling, you may be in a relationship before the end of the dog's life (if you got a puppy now, assuming it lived a normal life span, you'd be 26-28 or older before it passed away).
    I can completely understand why you want a dog ( I was very lucky when I was a child and teenager as we had family dogs that I could walk and play with, but which were my parents' responsibility) but I really think you should put it on hold for a few years.
     
  4. Hims

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    Hi guys - I joined this forum a while back. We (my wife and I) are getting a pup in 2 weeks (when he is 8 weeks). But this morning - I got to know that my wife is pregnant. As much as it is a great news for us and we are elated - I am also a bit unsure whether we are okay to have a pup in our lives at this stage. We both stay alone and I go to office daily while she stays at home. I was wondering if she will be able to take care of the pup while I am away at work (say 8 hours in the day). My office is just a mile alway though. I don't know if someone in this community has been through this before and can share similar experience. I really want to have a labrador pup but I am also a bit worried now. I am still positive that we can manage - especially since it is still an early stage in pregnancy.
     
  5. Emily

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    Hi! We were in a similar situation to you. We found our breeder but had to wait about six months until we were able to get a puppy. A few weeks after our puppy was born I found out that I was (unexpectedly) pregnant. Our puppy Ella was a week older than I was pregnant. Skipping to the current day, we have an 11 month old baby and a 20 month old dog and I wouldn't trade it for the world. However, I won't pretend that the journey to this point was easy.

    I was 7 weeks pregnant when we brought Ella home so I was just heading into morning sickness. Puppy poo/wee/vomit (yep, you can almost guarantee that you'll clean up all three of these along the way) and morning sickness are an horrendous combination. Then there's the fatigue. Anyone that has experienced the jet-lag like fatigue in the first trimester of pregnancy can imagine how hard it is to deal with a new puppy at the same time.

    Once the first trimester were out of the way, things became a lot easier. From this point onwards, it really depends on how you want to live through your wife's pregnancy and the early years of your child's life. For us, we decided to treat Ella as a member of of our family and now we view her as one of our two children (one human and one dog). We have the most wonderful dog and the two kids are developing the best relationship but it has taken a lot of time and effort to get to this point and will continue to take a lot of time and effort in the future.

    I guess what I'm saying is, if you're prepared to put in the time, there's no reason that it can't work.

    Congrats on the baby news and good luck with your decisions :)
     
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  6. Hims

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    Thanks for sharing your experience. We have decided that we will raise both our babies together :)
     
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